We are not just our mind, body, job, athletic ability, appearance, money, status, illness, and so forth. Most of us latch on to something(s) in our lives to which we identify or wish to be associated. It becomes our personal logo. Might be ego driven or victim driven.
Our pride will generally point us to our primary outside identity. The more we identify, the less we are our authentic selves. Who we are created to be. We begin to protect and promote, sometimes at huge costs, our identity. But it's never enough. Always needs to be more, bigger, better, stronger if ego centered or focused on weaknesses and what's wrong on the victim side.
Creating a new life with peace of mind means becoming more of our authentic selves and moving away from outside identities. It's learning to love ourselves for who we really are and not for who we think we should be. It's true freedom.